Behind The Mic With Speakers Live From Dallas Part 2

Speaker: 00:00:03

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Michelle Abraham: 00:00:44

Hooray Amplifyou family Michelle Abraham, your host here today. And have I got four incredible speakers for you today. These guys are at speakers Playhouse live where we are today in Dallas. And they are taking the stage sharing their message with the world in a bigger, better way. So I thought what a great audience to bring to you so that you can learn what was it that inspired them to stop playing Saul and sharing the message in a bigger way on the stage. So let me introduce you to these amazing people. All right, first up is Raja Raja Raja has actually been a guest on FIU before which is awesome. So welcome back. Roger, tell us a little bit about you what you're all about.

Raja Vaidya: 00:01:20

Thank you for having me back on the show. Again, Michelle. My name is Raja Vidya. I help people with their with their speaker authority for for quiet leaders, even if they have impostor syndrome, and especially for people who are speech disfluencies or English as a second language, because everybody has the power than their voice. You just have to find it.

Michelle Abraham: 00:01:39

Alright, Mike tell us about you

Mike Spillman: 00:01:41

Alright, I'm Mike and I help flesh traded goal setters get the hair straight back out and ready to go setters finally achieved success with my five steps to success using the dirt method. We could talk about that some other time. But glad that you're here.

Michelle Abraham: 00:01:56

Well make sure you follow the correct method, we're gonna get back to that one. That's pretty cool. Debra shared with us all about you.

Debra Lawson: 00:02:02

Hi, I'm Debra. I'm a tax accountant in Dallas, and I'm a Jewish dancer who's always like, I want you to not be late on your taxes. And I know better how to do than me than you do. And I've been doing this for about 15 years. So my job is to do your taxes. So you don't have to

Michelle Abraham: 00:02:24

I love it. Also I got what I do my taxes never had. That's fabulous. I love it. See, there's someone for everyone, right? And my friend, Lily come on in and say hi, Lily.

Lily McNamara: 00:02:34

So thank you so much for having me. You're fabulous. I'm loving those hearings. I'm Lily McNamara and I help busy entrepreneurs intuitively, manifest abundance and time for self care with my holistic heroes membership. Good.

Michelle Abraham: 00:02:48

Awesome. I love it. So love the grid of staying with you. Yes. And now want to know, what was it for you? So you actually have a podcast? What's your pocket and Lily of the light lily of the light? How long? Have you been podcasting for a few years now? Yes, that's awesome. What's your favorite part about it?

Lily McNamara: 00:03:04

I love the fact that we have so many more similarities with people than differences. And if you concentrate on the similarities, your life will be so much better. If you think you're you're horribly different and unique to the point where you can't fit in or not lovable. That's not true. You just have to focus on the similarities with others because that's where like the awesomeness lives and everything because like we can talk about so many things that we have in common, versus like the two that we don't like you have long hair, I have short hair, we're never going to talk about it. The fact that we both have spirituality, we're going to talk for hours.

Michelle Abraham: 00:03:35

I love it. And I heard yesterday that you were an Entrepreneur Show, tell us a little bit about us

Lily McNamara: 00:03:43

So I was on the blocks, which is the greatest entrepreneur live in competition in the country. And they have you live for a week on site, and you compete 24/7 You take a huge class at the beginning of every single day. And then you have a challenge. And you have to like pitch your business or do whatever the challenge is pop quiz. And then at the end, you have the blocks off, which is like the top of each group competes on a huge stage. And it teaches you how to be the best entrepreneur for your own business. And everyone who is there who is teaching you is a multimillionaire well, so you learn from the best.

Michelle Abraham: 00:04:25

Well, I've never seen the show. I'm Canadian. Maybe that's why we don't get it on our TV, but I'm definitely gonna look into it because I think that's so fascinating. And I heard that you want one of the season

Lily McNamara: 00:04:33

I won season nine and I did it through being authentic on season five. I was like I need to be professional. I need I need to look like everybody and sound like everyone else. season nine I just said you know what, I'm going to be as weird as I am in real life. It was just so weird. And I was doing tarot readings for people every day I was doing astrology I was staying up late talking to people and I had so much more energy just being my own that it's exhausting faking it people. Let's be honest. If you learn one thing, it's Just be authentic, because it's just too tiring. I'd be anything. I love it.

Michelle Abraham: 00:05:03

That's exactly what I wanted you to share. Because I think that's a huge message for our audience, that if you think that you need to be someone else before we can share your message, or you need some sort of permission to or you need some validation that you're enough to that is total crap, you do not you just need to look inside you and be your authentic self.

Lily McNamara: 00:05:20

Yes, it's the similarities. But your message matters, you will find your people

Michelle Abraham: 00:05:25

Exactly because everybody else is taking right good. Alright, Debra, I'd love to hear from you. What was it that made you want to start sharing your message on the stage? Because you're in a challenging, you do taxes? It's not nearly a career that most people just want a certain status. So what was it for you that made you learn to self worth being the only one with people or expand from there being one on one with people to take you to Steve and sharing your message with the world?

Debra Lawson: 00:05:50

Oh, well, yeah, no, just, you know, people just somehow get from doing one tax return at a time in sequence to first in first out tax returns for people, I could reach, you know, a wider audience and teach them as group how to do their own taxes. Or, you know, or at least get them ready to give their taxes over to me. So they don't have to pay as me as much for the tax bracket once they pay for the course.

Michelle Abraham: 00:06:22

So if you're speaking to our listeners that are maybe sitting at home thinking about doing something bigger that their life is what would you suggest that we'll split something spreadsheet, give them?

Debra Lawson: 00:06:32

Take care of your mental health

Michelle Abraham: 00:06:34

Love it. Anything in particular that you do for your mental health that helps you Yes,

Debra Lawson: 00:06:39

I went to through cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavior therapy, and DBT was the one that really helped me because CBT works on your thoughts. But Marsha Linehan realized that it wasn't enough. And she developed dialectical behavior therapy to help you change your emotions. So the eye opener to even the kids who do this is like, Oh, my God, I can control my emotions instead of my emotions controlling me. Right?

Michelle Abraham: 00:07:07

Well, that's so inspiring to it's to take control of your mental health, no matter how great you feel like Morgoth. Right? You're feeling that still an important piece of our everyday that our last guest, she said, healthy hustle, and I love that because it's like, we're gonna help you hustle.

Debra Lawson: 00:07:22

Oh, and as an Olympic athlete, and on her spotlight said it's okay to not be okay. Normally, it's Yeah, absolutely.

Michelle Abraham: 00:07:29

Thank you for sharing them as an it's a big one. Mike, I would love to hear from you. What goes well, first of all, please, I've been dying to know what in dirt.

Mike Spillman: 00:07:38

So I'm gonna give you the dirt. Alright. So dirt, obviously, is an acrostic, who literally came up with this probably a month and a half ago, I did a five series podcast on positive mindset 101. And I took each step of how to learn how to develop and maintain a positive mindset. D stands for decide you have to make a decision, you have to make the decision, you can't allow somebody else to make that decision for you. You decide what it is that you want to achieve. That's why I say frustrated goal setters, they may be trying to lose weight, they may be trying to get a better job, they may try to improve their relationship with their spouse or their partner, or whatever they may be trying to improve their relationship at work with your co workers, whatever it is, you'd have to make a decision of what is it that you want, and you guys already talked about that, right? You are unique, you have a unique authority, nobody else can do what you do, you need this out what you want without any justification needed for anybody else. So that's the decide. Second of all you need to identify that's the I identify any roadblocks that are holding you back from achieving what it is that you want to achieve. There's two R's in this dirt, so the first RS then you need to remove those obstacles, you need to replace them with something that's going to help you instead of hinder you. And when you do all of those things, the key is that you begin to transform so that's that's your The first one has asked for all of them. And I've not had time at any of my talents to do that. I do want to mention this I've been doing a podcast since 2009. You can find this pretty much anywhere you can find podcasts it's called Mike spilanthes Future Liu y o u future university because that's what I'm about to do is helping a gym crew and you gain the most you can for your future you

Michelle Abraham: 00:09:17

I love it. So my goal is that bring you that need you decide to take this message in a bigger way to the stages to the podcast, obviously you could walk in I think for a little while. So what was that what why is it important to you?

Mike Spillman: 00:09:29

Well, when I I went through a weight loss process and through the product that I was using, it was a multi level marketing product that their conventions I was introduced to Jim Rome, the Liga legend in this in this field that just led me on the journey I was started man just reading more and more books, more and more people I got involved in the community probably around 2008, early 2009 and kind of helped pushed and encouraged to get started in doing this. I've always loved to talk always love to share So I began that process June 2009. And did it every day. For a while I did a I did a blog and a podcast every day for a while. I don't do it as often anymore, but love doing it love sharing information and help people make the change in their life.

Michelle Abraham: 00:10:14

Awesome. And so yours came from a personal change, elite last thing you experienced. And I think that's the common theme is everyone had some sort of thing in their life that changed and pivoted in order to share that with the world. And I love that, you know, you don't need to have permission, we don't need to have some sort of certification. We're just a few steps ahead of our audience that makes all the difference in the world, we could bring our audience on our journey with that. So absolutely, in no rush up taking their audience on a journey with us. So share with us a little bit about what made you get started and you've overcome some really amazing things in your journey.

Raja Vaidya: 00:10:52

Well, it all really started about six years ago, I was thinking that after my I've been in cancer research now for over 26 years and a lot of issues with my lifelong speech impediment is that I've always looked for places that I don't have to talk. So I was doing karate, and became a grandmaster. Because I didn't have to talk I joined singing opera. So didn't have to talk. I became a research scientist, I didn't have to talk, I just worked in the lab, guess what, in all those things I was wrong. You have to talk she did talk to communicate to people to communicate data to present things. And so there was always, I always felt like this challenge is handicapped, but always holding me back because, and the worst example of that was about six years ago when I was in this big nine month long project. And, and my partner ended up because I didn't want to present the data because I was afraid to speak to large groups. And so she ended up presenting the data for me left my name off the main slide, and she put it all in the back. So it made it look like I had done 5% of the work rather than 50% of it. She got the promotion, and I did not. And so that really really sucker punched me and I just thought I can't believe and that was not the first time that had happened. And for other managers, who will I had worked with white helped and trained, got promoted, and I didn't. And so I decided that you know, there has to be something done. So part of my mission was to, you know, first step was, you know, I had to forgive, so I could let that emotional trauma go. But I did not forget and I use that as fuel to pivot me forward. So I started doing speaker training and masterminding and reading books, and everything, just everything changed. All of a sudden, I realized how many different things that I was holding myself back in. So then I stopped blaming others and started to look at myself as my own source of strength. You know, I was the battery that was charging my life. So if I can now take ownership of that, then you know what, nothing could stop me. I'm now limitless. And I'm still the imperfect speaker. So I started to do speaker training workshops. At my company. We had 40 People one year, then at the next year 150, the next year, and then we had 300 plus. So I earned an award winning. I mean, this workshop, I won in a company wide inspire award for improving company culture, the guy that can't talk, right. So if I can do that, I think that's what really gives other people hope is that you may think you have a challenge or an obstacle in your life. It is not a wall, it is speed bump, and treated as such. Awesome.

Michelle Abraham: 00:13:37

And I know you've been on over 300 stages this year. So you thought just played around with this speaking thing, you taking it to a whole other level and sharing that message in a bigger better way. Tell us how to find out more about your podcasts and things that you're up to.

Raja Vaidya: 00:13:51

Sure. So my livestream show is called Freedom coaching live, you can just find it on on victory mindset academy.com Victory mindset academy.com There'll be a link to it or just go into Facebook type in hashtag freedom coaching live, and I will live because when you're live, you thrive. It's a different energy when you're live versus being recorded. And also, I wanted to challenge myself to do a live too. So I really took the bull by the horns say alright, if I'm going to start or get stuck or get in blocks, I don't want to afford there to be any excuses. So I joke around on stages are Listen, I want you you all do it the audience count how many times they get a block or repeat or gets stuck or can't breathe. And at the end of the speech I SMI, who knows what the count is and nobody knows because I focused on the content and they forgot about my stutter. And that's the goal. That's the goal is to normalize this, you know, there are no protections for people with speech disfluencies under the Americans with Disabilities Act. That is my mission to get it added because I think people like me should be normal. Not feel like outsiders.

Michelle Abraham: 00:15:00

Amazing! Thank you for being so inspiring. And thank you so much for sure to others, that they can share their message and that that perfectionism thing, it creates that analysis paralysis and it stops you in your tracks. So being imperfect is perfect, right? Yes. Be like, share basically where you were, we've been worried for mation about it.

Mike Spillman: 00:15:22

Like I said, you can find my podcast but also you can just shoot me an email Mike at future view. university.com probably the easiest way to get a hold of me there.

Michelle Abraham: 00:15:31

Any last words of wisdom for our listeners saying Mike

Mike Spillman: 00:15:35

I will leave you one one little quote that I came up with my first podcast back in 2009. As long as there is breath, there is hope. No matter how possible things may seem, no matter how big is dark, as long as you're alive, and you're breathing, you have the opportunity today to begin to turn things around in your life. Don't ever if you forget anything else I say remember that?

Michelle Abraham: 00:15:55

Well, it's great. Thank you so much. My pleasure is nearly inspiring. Deborah, do you have any last word the length of my work? Can you find out more information about where to find it? Need our tech then where can we find you?

Debra Lawson: 00:16:07

Yes. So you can find me as Deborah Steinberg Lawson on either LinkedIn or Facebook. And you can look me up my company up as Lawson tax consulting LLC.

Michelle Abraham: 00:16:19

Alright, perfect. Any last words of wisdom for our listeners?

Debra Lawson: 00:16:23

Just follow your dreams. Don't don't know that people will. People will tell you not to do it. But if you feel a calling to do something, there's a reason.

Michelle Abraham: 00:16:34

Thank you, Deborah, for being so inspiring following your dreams so that we can follow along with you. All right, Lily. Let's hear what's yeah for us.

Lily McNamara: 00:16:43

So I am a proud millennial. And so I am across all social media is out across everything. It's lily of the light, Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok YouTube, you know the deal, everybody. You can also visit the website, Lily of the light.com. And what I want to leave you with is an affirmation. I am the hero of my own story. And I truly hope that all of you spend every single day being offensively authentic.

Michelle Abraham: 00:17:07

Oh my job offensively. I love. All right, Lily, and Debra, Mike, and Raja, thank you so much for joining me today and amplify your family. Thank you for joining us as well. We'll see you again next week. Have a great week.

Michelle Abraham: 00:17:23

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